Hey loves. How are you doing? I’ve been thinking of you for the past week. For whatever reason, Cyndi Lauper’s song, “Time After Time” plays every time I think of sitting down to write. I think you all needed that song. If you’re lost and you look, you will find me…time after time, my friends.
Today I was thinking about the people in my life who I wold consider ‘badass’ and it really came down to one thing: I define badass but how much you’re willing to work on your life. Yeah, badass can mean all kinds of things- daredevil, fearless (or stupid), carefree. But I think those all come down to breaking boundaries- that’s what makes them badass. In my realm, breaking boundaries for emotional healing and growth makes you a badass.
I think of people who:
- say ‘this doesn’t work for me anymore’ to their spouse, job, or family
- decide to work on the ‘shit’ they created in their own lives
- decide to work on the ‘shit’ someone else left inside of them when they were too small to understand (which can happen even when you’re 33)
- step outside a self-imposed box
- decide to tell the truth :: about anything
- cry for no apparent reason and decide to investigate that
- reach beyond their usual relational habits to make something new :: or better
- who open their heart when it still hurts and let someone else look inside
- wonder why they do what they do and step bravely into the answer :: no matter how much it hurts
- leave their family’s expectations of them and their life
- dare to take one step towards a dream
- leave behind even one script society has given them
- believe in and protect their own hearts
- who dance :: wherever
- notice when the shadow shows herself and turn towards her
- risk their heart + their love + their life to be true to their feelings
- feel all the way down
- dare to shine their light for someone new to see
- make themselves small and then grow into their true self again
- sit with their pain and let it flow
- stay alive even though they don’t always want to
- reach out
- cry :: joy fear love pain
- acknowledge the wound and heal it
I believe that everyone is doing the best they can- no matter how that looks to people outside the situation (cuz we’re all judgin’ someone!). But the badasses are taking it one step further and doing the work. They are breaking the boundaries of what their family told them, of what society told them, of the ways their heart has been broken, of the ways they feel broken. They are walking to the other side.
God bless the badasses. You’re making the world a better place.
Big love from the path,
Joanna :: xoxo