Because in these next 24 hours, you are FREEEEEEEEE!
This weekend is full of energy, my beautiful beasts. Friday was the 13th- often attributed to bad things (go look up ‘triskaidekaphobia’) and horror movies- is actually a day full of feminine energy. Both Venus and Freya are associated with Friday and the number 13 is connected with the lunar year (13 cycles) and is associated with death, rebirth, and creation- all realms deeply connected to the feminine.
I celebrated the feminine energy by watching Footloose (the original, the only, from 1984) with my family. You might not think that’s a very feminine movie, but it’s about dancing. We often associate dancing rituals with women, but of course that’s not the whole truth. Men dance, too. I was reminded how important dance is to men and to connecting with other humans. (I wrote some ideas about that, here.) And I also felt really grateful that I grew up with films like this, where men were not afraid of their sensuality, or of dance. Putting those things in your psyche, in the psyche of the collective, is important- it makes men who dance feel ‘normal.’ And we need that.
Footloose had a big impact on me, seeded many things in my own psyche. I was 10 when I saw the movie and five years later bought red boots just like Ariel had in the movie. They symbolized freedom and rebellion to me. I had a lot of years to go before I actually rebelled, but those boots were part of my identity and I was reminded of that on Friday.
I was also reminded of what a great soundtrack that film had- it’s listed at the end with some notes. I pulled out the CD and listened to it on repeat today. Good memories and good music.
So, it isn’t just Friday the 13th that’s happening this weekend. Mercury in retrograde ends tonight. And I could not be happier. I mean, I learned a lot. I actually feel like a combination of a butterfly and a supersonic jet leaving a cage at Mach 1, but I’m glad to see this phase come to an end. (And sorry to be vague, but I’ll talk more about that soon. I have some things to finish first. I will just say: some stuff got real clear and I’m making choices in alignment with that clarity.)
And that means you have a clear 24 hours until the new moon in Aries tomorrow night. I’ll put up some info about that tomorrow. Apparently, it means focused changes. I am ready for that.
But this is just to say: with Mercury in retrograde settling down (there is still a bit of the energy left for the next couple of weeks, but much less intense) and the new moon not quite yet here, we have a place to breath and ground and center in our true selves. Take it and run with it.
How? Be kind and gentle with yourself over the next 24 hours. If you’ve been dealing with something hard, let go a little bit and relax. If things have shifted, or you know they need to, hold on to that knowledge, but take a break. Do something fun. Get outside (if the weather isn’t shit). Breathe and nap and read and chill. And maybe dance a little. Let the space of this next day feel wide and deep and let yourself be held by it. Be a little footloose and fancy free.
Joanna :: xoxo
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Footloose | Kenny Loggins
Put on your red boots and go for it.
Let’s Hear It For the Boy | Deniece Williams
God bless Willard. He has the courage to change.
Almost Paradise | Mike Reno + Ann Wilson
I swear that I can see forever in your eyes.
[You know who you are.]
Holding Out for a Hero | Bonnie Tyler
Where have all the good men gone?
And where are all the gods?
Where’s the streetwise Hercules to fight the rising odds?
Not that I need saving. This song makes a girl thirsty, though.
Dancing In the Sheets | Shalamar
Love is always born on a chance
So wrap around me and baby let’s dance
I’m Free (Heaven Helps A Man) | Kenny Loggins
Looking into your eyes I know I’m right
If there’s anything worth my love it’s worth a fight
We only get one chance
But nothing ties our hands
I fight for what I love and desire.
And heaven will help a gal who fights her fears.
Somebody’s Eyes | Karla Bonoff
It’s part of the soundtrack (meh).
The Girl Gets Around | Sammy Hagar
She knows what she likes
I got what she needs
And one of these nights
We’ll both make our moves
We’ll cover some ground
Weirdly, this song, and the movie, have made me think more deeply about what I’m telling my son about dating. I am encouraging dating before sex (I always did, but I’m more committed to that as the standard for him now than before). Because how else do you know someone really wants you (and not just an orgasm)? You gotta date ’em. Go to dinner, just the two of you. Go to the movies. Hold hands. Make out in the car. Let desire build, see how they want to connect outside of sex, see if they’re into you. Play games (until you don’t anymore), but date first. Anticipation makes for better sex anyhow.
Never | Moving Pictures
You can never never never ever hide your heart
Don’t you ever ever ever ever try
If you don’t give your heart wings you’ll
Never never never ever fly
So much truth here. Don’t hide your heart. It may get broken, but let it fly. That’s really the only way to live and love and learn.